When I Cross Over I’ll Apologize For the Wasted Days…

When I cross over, I’ll apologize for the wasted days here, the endless pain, the soaring doubt and aching exhaustion – the days when I didn’t move. My divine beloveds will hold me and tell me that it was all part of the play, the dance of life, and exactly what they expected.

They’ll remind me that I couldn’t have lived here without each moment of deeply felt pain, determined anger, or paralyzing doubt. These profound feelings, they’ll explain, led me to my moments of boundless love, soul-shaking awe, inspired wisdom and healing grace.

What I know to be true is this: Our pain is on purpose. Our joy is the gift. Our heart is all that matters. Our mind is a great monkey loose in the forest and running amuck; it must be tamed.

Our truth is inside – always. It’s the inner voice that only speaks loud enough when we turn within, tame the monkey mind, and surrender assumptions; when we dip a trembling hand into the deepest water that terrifies us most and help someone who is drowning right beside us…

From my new book: Your Divine Lens

AS long as you’re alive, you’re still in the game

As long as you’re alive, you’re still in the game. You may be resting on the sidelines briefly, but you’re an important player, and you’re needed for the next inning. Even if you’re temporarily benched (from fear and self-doubt) prepare yourself to jump back in. Get up and move your body. Say a prayer for inspiration. Visualize how you’ll make your next move. Show your enthusiasm to the world and everything begins feeling better.

There’s nothing worse than realizing after the game ends that you’ve spent your lifetime sitting on the sideline watching others give it their all – knowing you had it inside of you to run the touchdown, hit the grand slam, and yet you didn’t jump back in. You sat watching and judging the efforts of others. You doubted your gifts. You exhausted yourself with worry and fear.

This is not who you came here to be. You didn’t arrive on earth to sit on the sidelines. You came to be a star – someone who passionately tries and tries again, a most valuable player, and someone who makes others believe that they too could do something great to serve the world.

The players sitting on the bench don’t inspire us. They never get to prove to themselves or anyone that they’re gifted, worthy, and carry a perpetual light inside that’s needed in this world.

How many lifetimes have you spent on the bench doubting yourself or doubting the importance of the game, the worthiness of other players, the value of succeeding, or the ecstasy of giving your everything to something?

The moment you jump in and give life everything – your heart, soul and gifts – you step into the bliss, the divine connection, the thrill of this realm. You remember why you came here and why all the hard work was worth it. That one moment of giving everything carries the juice, the love, opens your heart and pushes you into the light.

Just stand up. Move that heavy energy. Get it flowing. Call out for wisdom and love. Asking is everything and movement allows grace to flow through you.

Someday you’ll see it all with wisdom. You’ll understand the value of a courageous heart. You’ll see how courage creates the miracle, the impossible. It changes the game.

Everything worthwhile is born of courage, courage to move forward in spite of all your losses and doubt. It’s the one thing you truly need on earth. It lives inside your heart waiting for you to say yes.

From my new book Your Divine Lens

Funny How Grief Is so Easily Tapped Into by the Smallest of Losses

I’m so grateful that I went to Prague to see my baby girl. Got home Friday at midnight. My checked bag is lost in transit between Prague and Denver. United says they’re tracing it but with no results yet.

Feeling tired and jet lagged and somehow sad. I think it’s the exhaustion of the trip hitting me – but all I want to do is get in bed and cry for my lost Eileen Fisher sweaters, new down jacket and the yellow silk scarf that Sarah brought me from Italy years ago.

I know that my grief really comes from a pool of losses much greater than a scarf or down jacket. But thinking of my lost suitcase brings up this old sadness like a tidal wave – for a departed husband, girlfriend, father, kitties and ironically for my beautiful children who are all grown up and doing so well on their own.

Funny how grief is so easily tapped into by the smallest of losses. I’ll let myself cry it out today and when I feel stronger I’ll pray for courage and guidance and move forward.

But today the tidal wave is winning and I’m floundering in the floodwaters. This is a price we pay for being human and having the capacity to love deeply. I’ll pay it gladly. Because love is all there is and I’m so grateful to know that…

By Sue Frederick, author of Bridges to Heaven: True Stories of Loved Ones on the Other Side

Cynicism: Is it 20/20 vision or glaucoma?

You may believe that your cynicism protects you, shields you from ignorance and keeps you from being duped into believing what isn’t true. However cynicism is a very low frequency energy and does not serve you, protect you or enlighten you. Cynicism at its core is fear. Fear is the opposite of love. And love is the essence of this divine universe and what we came here to swim in.

When you view life with cynicism, you’re wearing your ego lens. Its dark filter is revealing shadows while obscuring light. This is a skewed macro view of the world that focuses on shadowy corners while entirely missing the golden light that infiltrates everything.

Cynicism is the natural state of your left-brain logic mind. It only shows you half of the picture and it blocks the essence of what you need to know. The higher truth, that which is essential, comes from your divine illogical intuitive right brain. It defies logic.

It’s the job of your left-brain to filter out everything that lies beyond logic, beyond your five senses, so that you can focus primarily on this physical world to survive, finding food and shelter, and navigating through dense energy.

Yet without your inner guidance, your access to the divine, you‘re completely lost, unable to see the essence of things or remember who you are. Without your divine perspective, which is free of logic, unbridled, in the creative flow, and immersed in sacred knowledge, you quickly become a lost soul.

Cynicism blocks your inner guidance and your access to the right brain. Cynicism does not exist in your divine lens perspective.

Wearing your divine lens, you understand that everything is evolving for your highest good and the good of all souls. From this perspective, your heart knows that each soul, no matter how they appear on the surface, is behaving exactly as well or terribly as their consciousness allows. You realize clearly that you came to this physical world to help shift consciousness, to shine your love and wisdom on all the lost souls and help them evolve.

Your cynicism only hurts you. It protects you from nothing and no one. It shuts your heart down and disconnects you from divine guidance and flawless intuition. It disconnects you from love.

Cynicism in relationships is a deal breaker – a love destroyer. It brings you into a low vibration frequency where love does not exist.

Name it what it truly is: cynicism is fear. Nothing more. Nothing less. When you live in the murky waters of fear, you suffer. You fall far from grace. You swim amongst the sharks. You plummet into the hell realm rather than swimming in the sweet ethers of divine love.

Cynicism does not protect you. To be protected, you need clear access to your divine intuition. Your soul reveals truth to you 24/7. You may be used to shutting this voice out, this divine whisper, but your inner wisdom (which comes from the heart and speaks in the voice of love) is the key to your success and happiness on earth. This wisdom tells you where to take your next step, whom to love, and what career to embrace.

Cynicism attracts lower frequency experiences and less evolved souls. Cynicism attracts empty jobs, meaningless work, and futile effort. Everywhere you look, you see the harshest lessons, the cruelest acts, the unkindest people. And you have now become one of them. You have become what you feared most. And your fearful energy contributes to the darkness.

There are infinitely more awakened and conscious beings living on this planet than non-awakened beings. You are one of these awakening ones, working behind the scenes to shift us into the light – when you’re wearing your Divine Lens.

All lessons are learned in the end. Light trumps the darkness every time.

Choose your perspective: Divine Lens or Ego Lens…

From my new book: Your Divine Lens

Over the Day, the Mood in the Room Turned from Sorrow to Uplift…

This is from one of my Bridges to Heaven grief workshop attendees in New York who writes for the New York Times. She recently lost her partner, Laura, to cancer. She writes about her healing experience in my class:

Yesterday I went to the ‘Healing Our Grief’ workshop at the Open Center. It was a beautiful sharing experience hosted by Sue Frederick author of Bridges to Heaven. Sue’s husband died age 37 from cancer and her best friend died the same year. These two tragedies transformed her life, reawakened her intuition and her spiritual side and prompted her to quit her job in journalism.

Sue came to understand, she says, that, ‘We take the soul journey of loss with our loved ones for a divine purpose’. It sets us on a path to reinvention and reconnection with spirit. Over the day, the mood in the room turned from sorrow to uplift.

Timidly at first, everyone began to share stories of their departed loved ones reappearing in their lives. Incredibly I was sitting in a Lucie-Laura sandwich; my neighbors were Lucille, Laura and Lore-Donna. Lore-Donna said roses magically grew around her window in time for her birthday after her husband died. Liz, who had just lost both parents, experienced her mother as a beautiful moth that sat by her side and rested in her palm.

These delicate experiences are easy to pick apart or dismiss as fanciful imaginings with our cerebral left brains. But they are the tissue that connects us to our loved ones and the spiritual world.

Once we stop doubting and see them for what they are, they are an amazing joy.

Several people, including Sue, commented on how comfortable I am with all this. Of course, I’ve had the best spirit guide in Laura. She was holding my hand and tickling me during the day.

But Sue also thought my intuition might have awakened earlier due to having battled Multiple Sclerosis for most of my life. I’ve healed myself using alternative methods and a lifetime’s symptoms have vanished (that’s a story for another time) but shortly after I was officially diagnosed in 2004, I had a vision that a large piece of my head was missing, almost half my skull was gone.

And then just as I was feeling sad, into this hole poured the most beautiful golden light. I felt that my illness had cracked me open and let the light in. That out of this suffering, beautiful things would come. And they did.
By Lucie Young

She has 80,000 blog followers and writes for the New York Times – http://laurasrecovery.com