When I cross over, I’ll apologize for the wasted days here, the endless pain, the soaring doubt and aching exhaustion – the days when I didn’t move. My divine beloveds will hold me and tell me that it was all part of the play, the dance of life, and exactly what they expected.
They’ll remind me that I couldn’t have lived here without each moment of deeply felt pain, determined anger, or paralyzing doubt. These profound feelings, they’ll explain, led me to my moments of boundless love, soul-shaking awe, inspired wisdom and healing grace.
What I know to be true is this: Our pain is on purpose. Our joy is the gift. Our heart is all that matters. Our mind is a great monkey loose in the forest and running amuck; it must be tamed.
Our truth is inside – always. It’s the inner voice that only speaks loud enough when we turn within, tame the monkey mind, and surrender assumptions; when we dip a trembling hand into the deepest water that terrifies us most and help someone who is drowning right beside us…
From my new book: Your Divine Lens
As long as you’re alive, you’re still in the game. You may be resting on the sidelines briefly, but you’re an important player, and you’re needed for the next inning. Even if you’re temporarily benched (from fear and self-doubt) prepare yourself to jump back in. Get up and move your body. Say a prayer for inspiration. Visualize how you’ll make your next move. Show your enthusiasm to the world and everything begins feeling better.
There’s nothing worse than realizing after the game ends that you’ve spent your lifetime sitting on the sideline watching others give it their all – knowing you had it inside of you to run the touchdown, hit the grand slam, and yet you didn’t jump back in. You sat watching and judging the efforts of others. You doubted your gifts. You exhausted yourself with worry and fear.
This is not who you came here to be. You didn’t arrive on earth to sit on the sidelines. You came to be a star – someone who passionately tries and tries again, a most valuable player, and someone who makes others believe that they too could do something great to serve the world.
The players sitting on the bench don’t inspire us. They never get to prove to themselves or anyone that they’re gifted, worthy, and carry a perpetual light inside that’s needed in this world.
How many lifetimes have you spent on the bench doubting yourself or doubting the importance of the game, the worthiness of other players, the value of succeeding, or the ecstasy of giving your everything to something?
The moment you jump in and give life everything – your heart, soul and gifts – you step into the bliss, the divine connection, the thrill of this realm. You remember why you came here and why all the hard work was worth it. That one moment of giving everything carries the juice, the love, opens your heart and pushes you into the light.
Just stand up. Move that heavy energy. Get it flowing. Call out for wisdom and love. Asking is everything and movement allows grace to flow through you.
Someday you’ll see it all with wisdom. You’ll understand the value of a courageous heart. You’ll see how courage creates the miracle, the impossible. It changes the game.
Everything worthwhile is born of courage, courage to move forward in spite of all your losses and doubt. It’s the one thing you truly need on earth. It lives inside your heart waiting for you to say yes.
From my new book Your Divine Lens
This is from one of my Bridges to Heaven grief workshop attendees in New York who writes for the New York Times. She recently lost her partner, Laura, to cancer. She writes about her healing experience in my class:
Yesterday I went to the ‘Healing Our Grief’ workshop at the Open Center. It was a beautiful sharing experience hosted by Sue Frederick author of Bridges to Heaven. Sue’s husband died age 37 from cancer and her best friend died the same year. These two tragedies transformed her life, reawakened her intuition and her spiritual side and prompted her to quit her job in journalism.
Sue came to understand, she says, that, ‘We take the soul journey of loss with our loved ones for a divine purpose’. It sets us on a path to reinvention and reconnection with spirit. Over the day, the mood in the room turned from sorrow to uplift.
Timidly at first, everyone began to share stories of their departed loved ones reappearing in their lives. Incredibly I was sitting in a Lucie-Laura sandwich; my neighbors were Lucille, Laura and Lore-Donna. Lore-Donna said roses magically grew around her window in time for her birthday after her husband died. Liz, who had just lost both parents, experienced her mother as a beautiful moth that sat by her side and rested in her palm.
These delicate experiences are easy to pick apart or dismiss as fanciful imaginings with our cerebral left brains. But they are the tissue that connects us to our loved ones and the spiritual world.
Once we stop doubting and see them for what they are, they are an amazing joy.
Several people, including Sue, commented on how comfortable I am with all this. Of course, I’ve had the best spirit guide in Laura. She was holding my hand and tickling me during the day.
But Sue also thought my intuition might have awakened earlier due to having battled Multiple Sclerosis for most of my life. I’ve healed myself using alternative methods and a lifetime’s symptoms have vanished (that’s a story for another time) but shortly after I was officially diagnosed in 2004, I had a vision that a large piece of my head was missing, almost half my skull was gone.
And then just as I was feeling sad, into this hole poured the most beautiful golden light. I felt that my illness had cracked me open and let the light in. That out of this suffering, beautiful things would come. And they did.
By Lucie Young
She has 80,000 blog followers and writes for the New York Times – http://laurasrecovery.com
When we’re at the top, the peak of a cycle, and all is well, we often forget about our Divine Lens view. We’re content to see life as a physical world because we’re happy and enjoying ourselves.
When we hit a valley, a great loss, illness or heartbreak, we struggle and suffer– until we finally reach for our Divine Lens and remember the gift of the lesson; remember our soul’s wisdom.
This is the purpose of the “valley” – to remind us of what’s important and who we really are.
Once we love the valley, cherish our Divine Lens view and embrace the lesson, we find ourselves happy again and moving forward with another peak in view ahead of us.
This is the sweet spot – still wearing our Divine Lens and yet excited to be moving forward with wisdom and grace.
If you’re in the valley today from job loss or heartbreak, look within, meditate, ask for divine guidance and listen to your soul’s wisdom. Sit still. Take a breath. You can only hear it when you’re quiet, unplugged and receptive.
Become best friends with your inner wisdom and shut out the chatter around you from friends, family and the world in general.
Once you see things from your higher self, your soul’s wisdom, not your ego mind, you’ll feel peaceful, grateful and open-hearted. This is when things will begin shifting for you.
You’ll find yourself moving forward in a new and more enlightened direction, an exciting new summit just ahead. Keep wearing your Divine Lens and cherish the wisdom you’ve gained in the valley.
From my newest book: Your Divine Lens (Release coming soon!)
You need partners and friends whose conversations leave you feeling uplifted and inspired to do something bigger and make a difference.
Your vision of a better world is your gift. Don’t dismiss it or waste time criticizing the way things are now. Tap into your enormous pool of inspiration and find a way to use your vision as the foundation for your work. That mission is the one you came to share.
Your salvation lies in seeing the big picture, following your inspiration, opening your heart and not getting lost in details, drudgery, or routine.
Your highest work requires stepping out of the confines of convention – into alternative worlds of knowledge, spirituality, intuition, and healing. It’s time to embrace your spirituality and use it as your gift to uplift and inspire others.
By spirituality, I don’t mean just reading a book or two, I mean daily connection to the divine through meditation and intense spiritual practice. It’s time to embrace your highest self profoundly enough to build your great work around it.
Let this pain fuel you to move forward and succeed at something that inspires and changes our world. It’s time to quit trying to fit in and be someone you’re not. You’ve hidden your true gifts in order to be loved. But the world will embrace you for who you truly are when you share your story through your great work.
To recover you need to do your work, the work you signed up for that will enlighten the world. Nothing will ease your pain as much as inspiration and accomplishment. Daily spiritual practice, such as meditation, will help you heal, overcome your doubt, and move forward boldly.
-From Bridges to Heaven: True Stories of Loved Ones on the Other Side